Monday, November 16, 2020

How to understand spiritual teaching.

•    God’s language is not Korean, English, or Japanese. God’s language is heartl (heart and love).
•    Every language has limitation to reach someone who was raised with a different language.
•    Therefore, how do we listen to spiritual education? (i.e. the one we received from True Parents, Dr. Yong, or any other teachers?)
•    By paying attention with our original heart, no other way.

How do we listen with our original heart?

1.    Respect – The teacher is trying to convey something
2.    Patience – We will not understand today, but at some point, we will.
3.    Trust – Trusting ourselves and our Heavenly Parent’s relationship with “I” is necessary.


Personal (Anne-Marie Mylar) experience with True Father’s words and ladies’ make-up

Belvedere between 1974 and 1979

TF told us, the ladies, that we should not make up or have beautiful clothes or even take the time to shower. It was not important.

Two weeks later

TF told us, the ladies, that we should always be very presentable. Take the time to put on make-up and have nice clothes.

If you were the person who heard only the 1st time and missed the talk two weeks later, what would you do? Was TF wrong the first time? And corrected himself? No, he was not. It is not what we do that matters most. It is with which motivation do we do or not do something. Father’s was right, both times. It is up to us to go beyond the words and understand the heart of God.
Dr. Chung Sik Yong - Belvedere November 2020

Thursday, November 5, 2020


From the beginning of time, the gaps between each generation (about 30 years each) have been difficult

to handle because each generation thinks, “We know better.”

I have reflected a lot on this, as I could not avoid the conflict between myself and my daughter. The conflict was not that bad but necessary because each of us made efforts to understand one another due to the simple reason that we deeply care and love each other.

Today, I would not call it an actual conflict, but there are times when each of us feels “something” is there.  That "something" reminds us both that we do belong to different generations where the other cannot live. What does that mean? It means that we simply need to respect each other’s generation and recognize the differences between them. And…these differences are good!

Why? The simple fact that none of us, young and old alike, can replicate a past generation shows that we are not robots but human beings, and unique. If we had simply repeated the lives of our ancestors, we would still be living in the Stone Age.

How do we handle the differences so that all of us are comfortable with our various inter-generational relationships? Well, respect and trust in one another will help. I do not mention “love” on purpose because too many of us are still learning what “love” is all about. But one thing I believe is, "love" starts with respect and trust in one another.

 “Mom…Trust me. Just trust me!” the desperate cry of my daughter I heard not just once but multiple times during her early adult years, still rings in my ears. I made an effort to pay attention, and one day I understood. I cannot explain to any of you how it happened because I do not remember, but one day the subject line of an email I sent to her read, “I got it.”

I got it! I finally was able to trust my daughter without fear of an impending disaster.  I think it came because I also decided to trust God. Easy to say, but not easy to do. Respect and trust must go both ways, so this would be my advice to the young generations:

Do not dismiss what the old people say. Listen to them; pay attention, for they have plenty of wisdom. Only after patiently understanding what they are saying will you have the ability to change the things you want to change and  really improve them. There are no shortcuts in life; we must learn from the past if we do not want to stay in the past.

And to the “old folks” like me, I would say:

Do not dismiss what the young people say. Listen to them; pay attention, for they have plenty of energy and ideas that need your wisdom. But if you do not listen and respect them, they will not be able to hear you. You do not really want the next generations to repeat your life and do things the way you did. They cannot. They are not re-living our history they are building theirs. But our successors will succeed faster if we are able to listen to them. And when they feel our respect, they will want to listen to us.

Friday, July 31, 2020

A letter of apology

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

You are precious to me. Your ancestry is precious to me. All your ancestors came from an exceptionally beautiful and precious continent, Africa. You have an amazing ability to love and care.
I would like to apologize to all of you on behalf of my race, for all the hurt and the abuse and the dis-respect that you and your ancestors have received because of our ignorance, our greed, and our inability to love.

I cannot demand forgiveness from any of you, I apologize expecting no rewards.

You can understand God better than many people because God’s own children were lied to, stolen, and raped by Lucifer and transported to a world that was not theirs. Your anger, outrage, and suffering has been and is today comparable to the one of our Heavenly Parent of yesterday and today.

Your amazing ability to love has been witnessed multiple times in the last 400 years or so. And it is my hope that together, we can cross the greatest divide of all so that we can reach the finish line together and at the same time, once and for all, bring all humanity back to God, our creator and loving Parent.

I apologize on behalf of my race,
Sincerely and with gratitude,
Anne-Marie Mylar

The Power of Giving…

Some people throughout history have felt value in giving to a cause or an idea. Individuals who have worked in missionary activities understand this. The richness of their lives cannot be valued monetarily, but their contribution is substantial.

There are many ways to give and support a project, an idea, or fulfill a goal. Money is not always available, but time might be—

For quite some time now, I have tried to find a couple of individuals who could offer me in earnest one or two hours a week of their precious time. A true gift, a genuine gift that would benefit others and truly serve a great purpose. So far, I have not been able to find such individuals within our communities.
I believe they are out there…
…but how to reach them? I do not know. Can you please help me find these precious people?

Programmer requirements

•    A schooled knowledge of programming.
•    Working knowledge of how both WHM and Cpanel work.
(Learning a new programming language will be required, which an experienced programmer will be able to learn quickly.)

Office staff needs

•    Experience with and a level of comfort with computer applications such as Microsoft Office (particularly Word, Excel, PowerPoint).

•    A basic to mid-level understanding of Bookkeeping. 
(All work will be done online.)


•    My husband used to tell me that the work I do with OMS (Online Matching System) gave him Spiritual Life.
•    Knowing one is doing something that has value beyond oneself is uplifting. It brings heartistic and spiritual wealth.
•    Our busy lives may not always nourish our soul but participating, even minimally, in something that has value to God and humankind will.
So, if money is not available, perhaps time might be—


Monday, June 29, 2020

All About Race...

When I originally created OMS, I followed the pattern of and included most of the questions  from  the  paper  Matching  Application  available  at  the  time.  One question was about race. Because I wanted to make sure that everyone would be comfortable with the question asked, I went on the internet to find out the best words to use to describe someone’s racial origin.

When talking to a Caucasian sister a couple of years later, I was surprised that she was unhappy that the word “white” was used  to  describe  her  race.  I  was open to suggestions, but she had no good substitute. So, “white,” it stayed.

Throughout  the  years,  I  became  more  and  more  uncomfortable  about  this particular question, so I changed the “word” race to the words “Parental Heritage.” I thought that would work. It did for a while, but then the discomfort returned.

In  addition  to  my  own  reticence  about  this,  as  I  worked  with  many  different candidates  throughout  the  years,  I  discovered  that  many  individuals  would, unconsciously perhaps, begin to read a profile but stop after reading the answer to that particular question. That disturbed me....a lot.

At  the  beginning  of  2019,  my  colleagues  and  I  were  preparing  for  yet  another Online Matching Meeting, something we do four times a year for 1st Generation members as well as Blessed Children. While reviewing someone’s profile I was again reminded about the sensitivity of this particular question.  Right then and there I decided to simply eliminate it.

From the 1960’s to 1990’s True Parents chose our spouses, and accepting their choice was easy. Faith in God and True Parents was virtually all that was needed.  Today,  however,  those  choosing  their  own  spouses  need  to  also  have  faith  in themselves, something that requires a lot more personal effort.

Applicants  on OMS,  are  no  longer  asked  to  indicate  their  race  or  parental heritage. This question is entirely irrelevant in God’s eyes and, at this point in human history, should be irrelevant for us all. I believe that in the future, we will be proud of our own and others’ cultural heritages and be unafraid to answer questions of who we are. But today, some walls are still high.

Sunday, June 14, 2020

My life as a Unificationist… A small discovery

Today I was reading Nancy Hanna testimony in the book “40-years in America” and an idea came to me. My life in the Unification Movement did not follow the normal “Formula course” taught by our True Parents. I was in a business mission from day 1 of moving into the center in Paris and stay in a business mission until April 15, 2009, except for 9 months in 1974.

We rarely fasted, rarely did conditions that would impair our ability to work long hours for the business at hand. We work hard, but we were well fed, well cared for in many ways.

I have many times compared my life as a Unificationist to many others who went a quite different course and I wondered why mine was different.

I have always been healthy, but I was a tiny child. My mother was a mid-wife and took care of me and my sister very well. I think my physical body was more fragile than possibly the norm, especially when I was very young. I remember receiving special medical treatment because I was so small for no specific reason.

I think God chose my mission very well. If I had followed the formula course, I may not have survived it. God knew my abilities, my strength of character, and he gave me a job, that I could do. Working hard, well fed, medical care anytime I needed. I never thought like that before, but I think that might be the reason for my life in our movement.

Because of the business mission, I attended only a couple of Divine Principle workshop and that was it. My spiritual life was not nourished as much as some other members. I remember very well, how eager we all were when visited by an elder and spoken to about God, True Parents, and the Divine Principle. But that was so rare.

God knew I could handle that. My commitment to God was strong enough to handle the fasting of spiritual food. That is why I got the job I did as a Unificationist. At least that is one explanation.

Special Note: In April of 2009 I had cancer and required a lot of treatments. I could not work anymore and earned a living. That is when I decided that I was done with business missions. No more! I stop reading books for entertainment only. Every book I read from then on to today are connected to feed my spiritual life for the purpose of guiding humankind to God and True Parents. It is during that time, summer 2009 that the Online Matching System (OMS) was born. The following year, I connected with the Blessing Family Ministry (BFM) and have been working with them since.

With Love and gratitude, always,

June 7, 2020