Friday, July 31, 2020

A letter of apology

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

You are precious to me. Your ancestry is precious to me. All your ancestors came from an exceptionally beautiful and precious continent, Africa. You have an amazing ability to love and care.
I would like to apologize to all of you on behalf of my race, for all the hurt and the abuse and the dis-respect that you and your ancestors have received because of our ignorance, our greed, and our inability to love.

I cannot demand forgiveness from any of you, I apologize expecting no rewards.

You can understand God better than many people because God’s own children were lied to, stolen, and raped by Lucifer and transported to a world that was not theirs. Your anger, outrage, and suffering has been and is today comparable to the one of our Heavenly Parent of yesterday and today.

Your amazing ability to love has been witnessed multiple times in the last 400 years or so. And it is my hope that together, we can cross the greatest divide of all so that we can reach the finish line together and at the same time, once and for all, bring all humanity back to God, our creator and loving Parent.

I apologize on behalf of my race,
Sincerely and with gratitude,
Anne-Marie Mylar

The Power of Giving…

Some people throughout history have felt value in giving to a cause or an idea. Individuals who have worked in missionary activities understand this. The richness of their lives cannot be valued monetarily, but their contribution is substantial.

There are many ways to give and support a project, an idea, or fulfill a goal. Money is not always available, but time might be—

For quite some time now, I have tried to find a couple of individuals who could offer me in earnest one or two hours a week of their precious time. A true gift, a genuine gift that would benefit others and truly serve a great purpose. So far, I have not been able to find such individuals within our communities.
I believe they are out there…
…but how to reach them? I do not know. Can you please help me find these precious people?

Programmer requirements

•    A schooled knowledge of programming.
•    Working knowledge of how both WHM and Cpanel work.
(Learning a new programming language will be required, which an experienced programmer will be able to learn quickly.)

Office staff needs

•    Experience with and a level of comfort with computer applications such as Microsoft Office (particularly Word, Excel, PowerPoint).

•    A basic to mid-level understanding of Bookkeeping. 
(All work will be done online.)


•    My husband used to tell me that the work I do with OMS (Online Matching System) gave him Spiritual Life.
•    Knowing one is doing something that has value beyond oneself is uplifting. It brings heartistic and spiritual wealth.
•    Our busy lives may not always nourish our soul but participating, even minimally, in something that has value to God and humankind will.
So, if money is not available, perhaps time might be—


Monday, June 29, 2020

All About Race...

When I originally created OMS, I followed the pattern of and included most of the questions  from  the  paper  Matching  Application  available  at  the  time.  One question was about race. Because I wanted to make sure that everyone would be comfortable with the question asked, I went on the internet to find out the best words to use to describe someone’s racial origin.

When talking to a Caucasian sister a couple of years later, I was surprised that she was unhappy that the word “white” was used  to  describe  her  race.  I  was open to suggestions, but she had no good substitute. So, “white,” it stayed.

Throughout  the  years,  I  became  more  and  more  uncomfortable  about  this particular question, so I changed the “word” race to the words “Parental Heritage.” I thought that would work. It did for a while, but then the discomfort returned.

In  addition  to  my  own  reticence  about  this,  as  I  worked  with  many  different candidates  throughout  the  years,  I  discovered  that  many  individuals  would, unconsciously perhaps, begin to read a profile but stop after reading the answer to that particular question. That disturbed me....a lot.

At  the  beginning  of  2019,  my  colleagues  and  I  were  preparing  for  yet  another Online Matching Meeting, something we do four times a year for 1st Generation members as well as Blessed Children. While reviewing someone’s profile I was again reminded about the sensitivity of this particular question.  Right then and there I decided to simply eliminate it.

From the 1960’s to 1990’s True Parents chose our spouses, and accepting their choice was easy. Faith in God and True Parents was virtually all that was needed.  Today,  however,  those  choosing  their  own  spouses  need  to  also  have  faith  in themselves, something that requires a lot more personal effort.

Applicants  on OMS,  are  no  longer  asked  to  indicate  their  race  or  parental heritage. This question is entirely irrelevant in God’s eyes and, at this point in human history, should be irrelevant for us all. I believe that in the future, we will be proud of our own and others’ cultural heritages and be unafraid to answer questions of who we are. But today, some walls are still high.

Sunday, June 14, 2020

My life as a Unificationist… A small discovery

Today I was reading Nancy Hanna testimony in the book “40-years in America” and an idea came to me. My life in the Unification Movement did not follow the normal “Formula course” taught by our True Parents. I was in a business mission from day 1 of moving into the center in Paris and stay in a business mission until April 15, 2009, except for 9 months in 1974.

We rarely fasted, rarely did conditions that would impair our ability to work long hours for the business at hand. We work hard, but we were well fed, well cared for in many ways.

I have many times compared my life as a Unificationist to many others who went a quite different course and I wondered why mine was different.

I have always been healthy, but I was a tiny child. My mother was a mid-wife and took care of me and my sister very well. I think my physical body was more fragile than possibly the norm, especially when I was very young. I remember receiving special medical treatment because I was so small for no specific reason.

I think God chose my mission very well. If I had followed the formula course, I may not have survived it. God knew my abilities, my strength of character, and he gave me a job, that I could do. Working hard, well fed, medical care anytime I needed. I never thought like that before, but I think that might be the reason for my life in our movement.

Because of the business mission, I attended only a couple of Divine Principle workshop and that was it. My spiritual life was not nourished as much as some other members. I remember very well, how eager we all were when visited by an elder and spoken to about God, True Parents, and the Divine Principle. But that was so rare.

God knew I could handle that. My commitment to God was strong enough to handle the fasting of spiritual food. That is why I got the job I did as a Unificationist. At least that is one explanation.

Special Note: In April of 2009 I had cancer and required a lot of treatments. I could not work anymore and earned a living. That is when I decided that I was done with business missions. No more! I stop reading books for entertainment only. Every book I read from then on to today are connected to feed my spiritual life for the purpose of guiding humankind to God and True Parents. It is during that time, summer 2009 that the Online Matching System (OMS) was born. The following year, I connected with the Blessing Family Ministry (BFM) and have been working with them since.

With Love and gratitude, always,

June 7, 2020

Friday, May 1, 2020

Describing Heaven...One thought at a time.

Julius Caesar appeared in the Roman Empire, conquered Gaul, incorporated it into the Roman Empire, and accomplished the unification of the Roman Empire (45 BC).
The New Essentials of Unification Thoughts – 2016 page 358

This morning after reading this sentence, a special feeling came over me, for the first time, in my whole life, as far as I can remember. I felt sad not to be able to speak the language of my ancestors, the ones before the Romans invaded France. The French language spoken today has been greatly influence by the presence of Romans in Gaul. For some reason I felt sad and hurt about this.

This kind of feeling in a fallen environment would cause resentment, anger, and possibly could lead to acts of violence and wars. However, I did not feel such feelings. I simply was sad and regretted not knowing the original languages of my ancestors.

Then my thoughts, went the following way. In a world where all of humanity is living centered on God the behavior expressed above will be the norm. Call it elements of peace, or elements of emotional maturity, perhaps. The result will be the same.

Many of us, wonder what Heaven looks like, what it will feel like, or what it truly means. What I described above is one of the elements of Heaven.

Tuesday, March 31, 2020

How to be efficient with email in a very busy office environment

When I first discovered “email” I was truly glad, because a thought could be instantly shared with someone else within a few minutes, even if this person was not near me. For me, it was truly important in the business environment that I was in.

Today, email, for many is an annoyance as a great percentage of it might be frivolous, unimportant, or worst. It has been replaced by many with text messages in many different forms.

However, email, for businesses is still extremely important, for the sample reason that, the written word can be used as proof of what was said. An important phone conversation should always be followed by an email stating what was talked about and the decisions that were made and by whom and for whom.

So, how to handle emails in a busy environment.

One way that it is done in some companies is, each person gets assigned an email address and that person is now responsible to take care of that particular mailbox. This kind of set up is not very good for several reasons:
  1. The individual needs be very diligent, which is not always the case.
  2. Some individuals may receive plenty of emails and someone else very few.
  3. There is no control of performance
  4. The # of email addresses can easily get very large, especially if there is a lot of turn around with personnel.
Another way is to have a single email address answered by several people. That is a better way as long as there is a good system for that particular mailbox to be attended to.
For example:
  5. Etc….
This is a better setup because now tech does not have to keep track of who’s is no longer employed in the company.

Each company likely has a different way of taking care of these emails, and their IT department is working on that, I am sure. But, for a smaller business like mine, I was not able to find a good online application that could have one mailbox taken care of by multiple people in an efficient matter until about 8 years ago. I do not want to advertise this particular company here but if you want to know who they are, you can always let me know.

With gratitude, always.