What does reconciliation means to me?

 What does reconciliation means to me:

Reconciliation is liberation

1) Understand the hurt created due to ignorance
2) Recognized the hurt created voluntarily towards others
3) Recognized the ignorance that I have about all the other cultures
3) Ability to ask for forgiveness
4) Ability to recognized the value of others
5) Ability to respect others cultures and background
6) Ability to learn from individuals who are very different than me, in culture and traditions
7) Ability to recognized that all humanity is a single family, under one Heavenly Parent

Dec 2020 

 

Attitude towards the Marriage Blessing

 

 Dear Brothers and Sisters,

You are pioneers. You are setting the path for future generations. I am talking about the way we are trying to find our Heavenly Spouse. As you may have heard from me before, being matched and blessed when True Parents were doing so, was a matter of great faith in God and in them, and we did it with great expecting hearts.

Today it is different, faith needs be there for sure but not only in Heavenly Parent, it has to be there in ourselves. We need to be able to understand that Heavenly Parent trust us to do the right thing, so we must also trust ourselves.

Why are you pioneers? Because you are among the first group of individuals who must do so. In the future, it will become a norm but today, it takes diligence and plenty of courage to prepare oneself to be a spouse and find the Heavenly Spouse.

True Father once explained that not just one person can be our Heavenly Spouse, so do not think that there is only one individual among all, that is for you. There are more than one.

So, finding the one has nothing to do with finding a needle in a haystack, but everything to do with how we prepare ourselves to be a spouse and the motivation being it all. Are you willing to do the work, external and internal, both, not just one or the other?

What are the external:

• Fulfilling the requirements to be a Matching Candidate
• Create and update on a regular basis a good profile – A profile needs to reflect your heart and soul – take the time, do it well and post it on all platforms available.

What are the internal:

• An attitude of devotion
• Sincere prayers, and clear understanding of the preciousness of the Blessing
• A good understanding of the teaching of our True Parents
  

There are three events in our life that are most important: Our Birth, our Marriage-Blessing, our Death
It took 9 months and painful delivery for us to be born. It can take many months and a lot of difficulties for someone to enter the spiritual world. So, what about the Marriage-Blessing? Be the heroes of our time, show the future generations that finding our own Heavenly Spouse is a most beautiful task that True Parents have entrusted to us.

December 23, 2020

 

How to understand spiritual teaching.

•    God’s language is not Korean, English, or Japanese. God’s language is heartl (heart and love).
•    Every language has limitation to reach someone who was raised with a different language.
•    Therefore, how do we listen to spiritual education? (i.e. the one we received from True Parents, Dr. Yong, or any other teachers?)
•    By paying attention with our original heart, no other way.

How do we listen with our original heart?

1.    Respect – The teacher is trying to convey something
2.    Patience – We will not understand today, but at some point, we will.
3.    Trust – Trusting ourselves and our Heavenly Parent’s relationship with “I” is necessary.

Example

Personal (Anne-Marie Mylar) experience with True Father’s words and ladies’ make-up

Belvedere between 1974 and 1979

TF told us, the ladies, that we should not make up or have beautiful clothes or even take the time to shower. It was not important.

Two weeks later

TF told us, the ladies, that we should always be very presentable. Take the time to put on make-up and have nice clothes.

If you were the person who heard only the 1st time and missed the talk two weeks later, what would you do? Was TF wrong the first time? And corrected himself? No, he was not. It is not what we do that matters most. It is with which motivation do we do or not do something. Father’s was right, both times. It is up to us to go beyond the words and understand the heart of God.

 

 

Dr. Chung Sik Yong - Belvedere November 2020

Generation...Generation...Generation...

From the beginning of time, the gaps between each generation (about 30 years each) have been difficult to handle because each generation thinks, “We know better.”

I have reflected a lot on this, as I could not avoid the conflict between myself and my daughter. The conflict was not that bad but necessary because each of us made efforts to understand one another due to the simple reason that we deeply care and love each other.

Today, I would not call it an actual conflict, but there are times when each of us feels “something” is there.  That "something" reminds us both that we do belong to different generations where the other cannot live. What does that mean? It means that we simply need to respect each other’s generation and recognize the differences between them. And…these differences are good!

Why? The simple fact that none of us, young and old alike, can replicate a past generation shows that we are not robots but human beings, and unique. If we had simply repeated the lives of our ancestors, we would still be living in the Stone Age.

How do we handle the differences so that all of us are comfortable with our various inter-generational relationships? Well, respect and trust in one another will help. I do not mention “love” on purpose because too many of us are still learning what “love” is all about. But one thing I believe is, "love" starts with respect and trust in one another.

 “Mom…Trust me. Just trust me!” the desperate cry of my daughter I heard not just once but multiple times during her early adult years, still rings in my ears. I made an effort to pay attention, and one day I understood. I cannot explain to any of you how it happened because I do not remember, but one day the subject line of an email I sent to her read, “I got it.”

I got it! I finally was able to trust my daughter without fear of an impending disaster.  I think it came because I also decided to trust God. Easy to say, but not easy to do. Respect and trust must go both ways, so this would be my advice to the young generations:

Do not dismiss what the old people say. Listen to them; pay attention, for they have plenty of wisdom. Only after patiently understanding what they are saying will you have the ability to change the things you want to change and  really improve them. There are no shortcuts in life; we must learn from the past if we do not want to stay in the past.

And to the “old folks” like me, I would say:

Do not dismiss what the young people say. Listen to them; pay attention, for they have plenty of energy and ideas that need your wisdom. But if you do not listen and respect them, they will not be able to hear you. You do not really want the next generations to repeat your life and do things the way you did. They cannot. They are not re-living our history they are building theirs. But our successors will succeed faster if we are able to listen to them. And when they feel our respect, they will want to listen to us.

I love my husband because...

 

A letter of apology

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

You are precious to me. Your ancestry is precious to me. All your ancestors came from an exceptionally beautiful and precious continent, Africa. You have an amazing ability to love and care.

I would like to apologize to all of you on behalf of my race, for all the hurt and the abuse and the dis-respect that you and your ancestors have received because of our ignorance, our greed, and our inability to love.

I cannot demand forgiveness from any of you, I apologize expecting no rewards.

You can understand God better than many people because God’s own children were lied to, stolen, and raped by Lucifer and transported to a world that was not theirs. Your anger, outrage, and suffering has been and is today comparable to the one of our Heavenly Parent of yesterday and today.

Your amazing ability to love has been witnessed multiple times in the last 400 years or so. And it is my hope that together, we can cross the greatest divide of all so that we can reach the finish line together and at the same time, once and for all, bring all humanity back to God, our creator and loving Parent.

I apologize on behalf of my race,
Sincerely and with gratitude,
Anne-Marie Mylar

The Power of Giving…

Some people throughout history have felt value in giving to a cause or an idea. Individuals who have worked in missionary activities understand this. The richness of their lives cannot be valued monetarily, but their contribution is substantial.

There are many ways to give and support a project, an idea, or fulfill a goal. Money is not always available, but time might be—

For quite some time now, I have tried to find a couple of individuals who could offer me in earnest one or two hours a week of their precious time. A true gift, a genuine gift that would benefit others and truly serve a great purpose. So far, I have not been able to find such individuals within our communities.
I believe they are out there…
…but how to reach them? I do not know. Can you please help me find these precious people?

Programmer requirements
•    A schooled knowledge of programming.
•    Working knowledge of WHM and Cpanel work.

Office staff needs

•    Experience with and a level of comfort with computer applications such as Microsoft Office (particularly Word, Excel, PowerPoint).
•    A basic to mid-level understanding of Bookkeeping. 
(All work will be done online.)

Benefits

•    My husband used to tell me that the work I do with OMS (Online Matching System) gave him Spiritual Life.
•    Knowing one is doing something that has value beyond oneself is uplifting. It brings heartistic and spiritual wealth.
•    Our busy lives may not always nourish our soul but participating, even minimally, in something that has value to God and humankind will.
So, if money is not available, perhaps time might be—

Sincerely,
Anne-Marie